Posted by: mikenicholsblog | January 13, 2021

nothing-new-under-the-sun families

“I want more” were the words which came to mind as I read Scripture yesterday morning. “More of what?” you might ask. In doing a survey of the Bible in 60 days, we are brushing broad strokes across stories that I hold dear. Don’t just give me pieces and parts of Joseph’s story, “I want more.” In this discontent I must remind myself (and you) not to worry. By the time we finish ’21, Joseph and other Bible characters will give you the “more” we’re looking for! And speaking of 21, I wonder in our overview of Genesis if you’ve noticed some patterns that bring to mind 21st century living?

Cain and Abel … family issues!
Noah … family issues!
Lot … family issues!
Jacob and Esau … family issues!
Joseph and his brothers … family issues!

Woven through the fabric of Genesis is a foreshadowing of family relationships in our own time (nothing new under the sun, indeed, Solomon).  Dysfunctional! Almost everyone has looked at their family (or extended family) and wondered what in the world is happening. In our minds, things should be better. And in our weakest moments, we even feel sorry for ourselves. Jacob’s words in Genesis 42:36 ring in my ears as I think about the family dynamics of today. He seemed at his wit’s end.

Their father Jacob said to them, “You have deprived me of my sons. Joseph is gone and Simeon is gone. Now you want to take Benjamin. Everything happens to me!” (HCSB)

Granted, he was at a hard place, but his words (Everything happens to me) remind me of how we all sometimes feel when our family dynamics are in upheaval.

Over the last two weeks in reading pieces and parts of Genesis, issues of selfishness, immorality, deceitfulness, bad decisions and even favoritism have been exposed. As your friend, I would venture to say that your family faces some of those very issues today. The sin and dysfunction in families centuries ago, along with the models of wrong thinking and selfish living are alive and well today. So, what should Christ-followers do amid circumstances we seemingly can’t control, fix, or avoid? Take a moment to look with me at the character from Genesis I mentioned in the opening paragraph … Joseph. In reading his story, I see a heart of unfailing forgiveness. After his brothers threw his life into a tailspin that God used for His glory, we find the words of Genesis 50:20 …

You intended to harm me, but God intended it all for good. He brought me to this position so I could save the lives of many people. (NLT)

God’s grace had worked so deeply in this man that his perspective with his brothers was amazing.

The view of family life in Genesis with all its dysfunction but also pictures of faith, trust and forgiveness, is the nothing-new-under-the-sun one we have today. Two thoughts come to mind as to how we can navigate family life in 2021. First, decide to ask this question of every family situation: What is His perspective?” Consistently asking God for His perspective changes the way you look at others and how you respond to them. And believe me, God has a perspective on how to handle dysfunction. Ask the question daily! Second, frame all family relationships through the lens of Ephesians 4:29. Don’t use foul or abusive language. Let everything you say be good and helpful, so that your words will be an encouragement to those who hear them. (NLT) If you and I consistently give words of encouragement, forgiveness and healing, our families will see a picture of what life can be. Try it!

There will always be dysfunction. But as Christ-followers, we have God’s perspective from His Word to navigate our family relationships. Your family dysfunction may not end in 2021, but your life of encouragement and forgiveness can make a difference.

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